Healthy Relationships

WHAT'S A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP?

Any relationship that you have in your teens will affect your relationships later in life. The lessons you learn about respect, healthy versus unhealthy relationships, and what's right or wrong will carry over into future relationships. So it's important to recognize what a healthy relationship is.

IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY?

Check to see whether the following qualities exist in yours:

Mutual respect - Respect means that each person values who the other is and understands the other person's boundaries.

Trust - Without trust, there's no way to have a healthy relationship. Choose to trust in each other and give each other the benefit of the doubt.

Honesty - If you have ever caught your friend or dating partner in a huge lie, you know that it takes time to rebuild your trust in him or her. Always be honest. It builds trust and strengthens the relationship.

Compromise - You won't always get your way. Acknowledge different points of view and be willing to give and take. It's a bad sign when the relationship becomes a power struggle.

Individuality - You shouldn't compromise who you are, and your identity should not be based on your boyfriend or girlfriend. Continue seeing your friends or doing the things that you love. Be supportive if your boyfriend or girlfriend wants to pursue new hobbies or make new friends.

Good communication - Speak honestly and openly to avoid miscommunication. If you need to sort out your feelings first, your boyfriend or girlfriend should respect your wishes and wait until you're ready to talk.

Anger control - We all get angry, but how we express it can affect our relationships with others. Anger can be handled in healthy ways such as taking a deep breath, counting to 10, or talking it out.

Problem solving - You can learn to solve problems and identify new solutions by breaking a problem into small parts or by talking through the situation.